(Saturday, April 21, 2012 / 1:10 AM)
An important principle for Cancer to remember is this: Anger is a reaction. When we feel angry, it is because somthing in our background or personal value system has been challenged. That something tells us we ought to react by being angry. But anger, like love, is a choice, a choice we make on the basisi of out subconscious values and attitudes. Thus, we can choose to change it by changing the values that lead us to feel it.
One of the things that makes the Cancer Woman angriest is to be ignored. She may be moody or retiring,
but she needs large doses of recognition. She gets angry when it is not forthcoming. The Cancer Woman
must learn to ask for what she needs. It is the surest way for her to get what she needs, and an excellent
way to avoid situations that predictably make her angry.
Another thing that makes her angry is when someone she has loved, protected, and perhaps smothered
decides to become independent. This often strikes terror into the Cancer heart. The Cancer Woman likes
to be not only needed but indispensable -- that is to say, to be in control. She must learn to overcome the insecurity that creates grasping, to let go.
The Cancer Woman is often angered by injustice to young ones. Basically, compassionate, she hates
cruelty in any form. She can express her anger constructively on a personal level by helping to change
those who take their anger out on children.
She is angered by being pushed, exploited, or taken for granted, but she seldom comes right out and says
it. She needs to be more straightforward nd honest about her anger. Much of her anger would be
dissipated if she were to break the pattern by open communication. Often, people simply dont know what
makes her angry and when.
Remember this: there is always a possibility that she wants to hang onto her anger. If this is true, know
it. Accept it for now, but give her latitude to change it later.
Introspective, Moody
The Cancer Woman wishes to avoid overt conflict at all cost. Her usual policy is to evade the heat of
action. Let Leo roar and Aries ram people head on; Cancer will stand by and watch for the first opening
she can slip through without causing waves. She does no like to rock the boat; she would rather row it
gently but surely to its destination.
She is sentimental and introspective. She derives so much plesaure and information from diving into her
own unfathomable depths that she simply turns tail and zigzags away when something displeases her.
Retreat does not faze her, for she knows she can usually get her own way if she waits long enough.
The moon is her mistress, but she must learn to master the moods that the quarter-moon seems to inflict
on her four times a month. Clams normally live for 150 years, and they opena nd close regularly witht he
coming and going of the moon. Cancer may not live quite as long, but she too reflects the solar and lunar
phases and the changes in the weather. Many a Cancer Woman swells up with the full moon and feels
nervous two weeks later at the new moon.
The Cancer Woman's challenge is to channel her psychic sentitivity in the most productive and enjoyable
direction. To fear her moods and the prescience that underlies them is the worst thing she can do. She
should attempt to treat her sensitivity as a gift and use it in the service of people and causes close to her.
Emotional
The Cancer Woman normally lives in a state of internal anxiety of gigantic proportions. She is highly
sensitive to people and ambience, and she reacts emotionally to everything from yesterday's newspaper
headlines to her bank's change of hours. She often hides her emotions, however, and to those who don't
know her well, she seems as placid as a sailboat in calm waters. But she is less the Rock of Gibraltar than
an upredictable sea.
Idle fancies or passing statements can throw her into a tizzy. Upsets make her stomach tighten, and she is
a professional worrier. She adores music and is apt to fall into a romatic reverie at the sound of her
favorite song or sonata. Flowers, scents, and pictures awaken old memories and strong feelings. Without
intense reactions, the Cancer Woman feels only half-alive.
Thin-skinned, Petty, Vengeful
The Cancer Woman is vulnerable to sniping, criticism, and aggression, and she is uncomfortable with
people who lack social conscience or personal sensitivity. She has very thin skin and is often hurt by an
unintended slight. Since sha has a long memory, this can creat unfortunate situations. She is apt to file for
future reference as careless remark Ms. Jane Doe tosses off. Ten years later, when Ms. Jane comes to
visit, she is likely to find Ms. Cancer cool and bitchy; and Ms. Jane will never know why.
The Cancer Woman is often petty about insults, real or imagined. Since she is so subjective, she tends to
take almost everything personally. She can understand a busy doctor not remembering her first name, but
she will never fogive him for not asking about her family. If she feels that she or her home and family
have been betrayed, the Cancer Woman frequently retaliates. She can be extremely vengeful, for example,
if she suspects her partner of infidelity. There is cruelty in her nature, and she is bound to make him pay
for it; endless, merciless sulks, spending sprees, and accusations are not uncommon.
Sensitive Ego, Mediocre Self-esteem
In ancient Egypt, Cancer's sign was represented not by the crab, but by the scarab, or dung beetle. Both
creatures are protected by a shell, and the Cancer Woman, too, seems to beed a layer of defenses to cover her soft, tender, vulnerable side. The crab, like the scarab, has the function of devouring the transitory and thereby effecting regeneration. The Cancer Woman, by absorbing the negative emotions around her and replacing them with her healing balm, can bring about sprititual transformation.
The Cancer Woman is often self-doubting and cantakerous. Above all, she fears rejection and humiliation; for example, she may see venom in the petty rejection of an angry salesclerk. Her biggest problem is that she personalizes everything and often feels as if the world might victimize her if she fails at all times to protect herself.
She is sometimes devious and often deceptive, retiring and yet an opportunist. Because she is attuned to
people and can almost predict events, she can be extremely successful. She is a born politician, being
intrerested in gossip adn the efficient use of people's weaknesses. An excellent way for her to raise her
self-esteem is to combine her domestic involvement with outside work. Whether she focuses on charity,
therapy, the professions, volunteer work, or local politics, the Cancer Woman needs to find ways to avoid
smothering her close ones, ways to spark her own self-confidence outside her nest.
Advice to friends: the Cancer Woman need her ego built up. Do not push her, never demand! Instead,
ask her gently and supportively, guide her to take initiative, and teach her to take risks, Be a model of
action, not a complainer; be a doer she can admire but not fear.
Cancer Relationships
Cancer must learn how to love without trying to own the people she loves; she needs to be more fully
aware of when and how to end bad relationships. Breaking up may be hard to do, but for the Cancer
Woman, it is pure hell. She seldom lets go, frequently clinging to losers or victimizers. She is often
mistreated by men.
The Cancer Woman senses the real balance of power in human relationships, but unfortunately she often
sees them as win-or-lose propositions. She always gets what she wants, but she frequently wants what
deep down she does not truly need. Thus, she is a winner who in a hidden sense may be a loser. Her
manipulative tendencies and introversion often shut out the very people she needs most; lack of
communication, blocked emotions, self-pity, and moodiness are frequent Cancer problems.
She is apt to attract many friends and potential lovers, for people seem to bask in her need to give and do
for them. She is often a substitute mother, amateur therapist, or spiritual midwife. Just as plants thrive in
her greenhouse atmosphere, so do people trek to her door, anxious to receive her ministrations.
She fluffs pillows behind pained backs and concocts magical potion for sleeplessness, headaches, or
stomach pain; she reads poetry to soothe frazzled nerves and always casts a protective net. Sometimes her net is deceptively restrictive. People often become highly dependent on her and fall victim to her potent charm. As long as she uses her power to heal and help, no harm is done, but she must keep the Negative Mother from taking the reins.
When Cancer is frustrated, she tends to withdraw from the battle of daily life. Friends suddenly find her
changed and frequently unreachable as she closes off and sulks. She can turn into a pschic drain, for she
saps others' energy with her repressed hostilities. It is easy for those who love her to feel abandoned,
fearful, or guilty, and since she seldom offers direct explanation, they are left to fend off worry and
mounting resentment by themselves. This pattern may repeat itself cyclically, and it can leave a chain of
unhappy relationships in its wake.
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